Why I'm done with dating at Witt
Kathryn Jablonowski
Issue date: 2/16/06 Section: Columns
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There are approximately 900 males on Wittenberg's campus, and, in my opinion, only about 45 that are datable-and that's stretching it. OK, I know that's a little harsh, but here I am, 20 years old, in the prime of my life, and have sworn off dating. I know plenty of girls here that feel the same way. You've probably already guessed it, but this article is going to tell you why.
First of all, things work so backwards here at Wittenberg. Let's reflect for a second on the real world. In normal situations, two people meet, flirt, exchange numbers, go on a couple dates, and, if things click, eventually get to the physically intimate level. Now think about it; can you name any relationship between two Wittenberg students that started out with a date? I can't. Most relationships I can name started out with the intimate level, and then the two people try to work at turning drunken sex into a relationship. Now while I'm sure that's really, really healthy, it's not my ideal start to a great romance.
Secondly, there is so much "inbreeding" here on campus it's not even funny. You all know what I'm talking about. Say you meet a guy at a party and actually have a great conversation. You're so excited, and you can't wait to get home and tell your girlfriends all about it. As you replay the conversation word for word, one of your friends starts shaking her head in disapproval. "You can't, he hooked up with…" or "Sorry, he used to date…" Come on girls, you have all heard a statement similar to this before. Every guy you meet has some sort of connection to someone you may or may not directly know at a campus this small. It's bound to happen. That labels him as off-limits, no matter what. It sucks, but we all know it's true. Every decent boy I can think of has at least two of these connections, so I automatically write him off for fear of losing friends and/or making enemies. At this point I can't help but think, "why even bother?"
Alright, say you find a guy that actually wants to get to know you before getting in your pants, and isn't somehow connected to someone you know. That's great-good job. But I'm sure he didn't call you first. Seriously, I don't mean to sound old-fashioned, but what has happened to chivalry? Don't get me wrong, if I'm interested, I'll call a guy, but it would be nice to get the call first. Why do we have to do all the work? Guys, we're going to need you to suck it up, grow a pair, and call a girl if you like her! And while I can open a door for myself, sometimes, I would like it done for me. It's these little things that make girls feel special. There aren't hard tasks; I know you boys can do it.
And let's get a couple things straight-you might think that a Facebook message is very romantic, but most girls I know prefer candy or flowers. Oh, and one more thing; a drunken call at 4am does NOT count as a call, but nice try.
So, I'm sure there are some people (mostly guys) that are reading this and becoming more and more outraged with every sentence. You're probably calling me a slew of completely inappropriate names. Perhaps you're already preparing your rebuttal. Relax; it's just a newspaper article. And how about instead of thinking of this as an insult, consider it a challenge to prove me wrong. Step up and take it! I think every girl on campus would appreciate it.
First of all, things work so backwards here at Wittenberg. Let's reflect for a second on the real world. In normal situations, two people meet, flirt, exchange numbers, go on a couple dates, and, if things click, eventually get to the physically intimate level. Now think about it; can you name any relationship between two Wittenberg students that started out with a date? I can't. Most relationships I can name started out with the intimate level, and then the two people try to work at turning drunken sex into a relationship. Now while I'm sure that's really, really healthy, it's not my ideal start to a great romance.
Secondly, there is so much "inbreeding" here on campus it's not even funny. You all know what I'm talking about. Say you meet a guy at a party and actually have a great conversation. You're so excited, and you can't wait to get home and tell your girlfriends all about it. As you replay the conversation word for word, one of your friends starts shaking her head in disapproval. "You can't, he hooked up with…" or "Sorry, he used to date…" Come on girls, you have all heard a statement similar to this before. Every guy you meet has some sort of connection to someone you may or may not directly know at a campus this small. It's bound to happen. That labels him as off-limits, no matter what. It sucks, but we all know it's true. Every decent boy I can think of has at least two of these connections, so I automatically write him off for fear of losing friends and/or making enemies. At this point I can't help but think, "why even bother?"
Alright, say you find a guy that actually wants to get to know you before getting in your pants, and isn't somehow connected to someone you know. That's great-good job. But I'm sure he didn't call you first. Seriously, I don't mean to sound old-fashioned, but what has happened to chivalry? Don't get me wrong, if I'm interested, I'll call a guy, but it would be nice to get the call first. Why do we have to do all the work? Guys, we're going to need you to suck it up, grow a pair, and call a girl if you like her! And while I can open a door for myself, sometimes, I would like it done for me. It's these little things that make girls feel special. There aren't hard tasks; I know you boys can do it.
And let's get a couple things straight-you might think that a Facebook message is very romantic, but most girls I know prefer candy or flowers. Oh, and one more thing; a drunken call at 4am does NOT count as a call, but nice try.
So, I'm sure there are some people (mostly guys) that are reading this and becoming more and more outraged with every sentence. You're probably calling me a slew of completely inappropriate names. Perhaps you're already preparing your rebuttal. Relax; it's just a newspaper article. And how about instead of thinking of this as an insult, consider it a challenge to prove me wrong. Step up and take it! I think every girl on campus would appreciate it.
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